Do Sheen, Mayer and Other Celebs Typify ‘Toxic’ Men?
Communications expert, professor and author Dr. Lillian Glass reports she's simply staggered to find the archetypes in her new "Toxic Men" book making news these days all over the celebrity sphere. And once she starts naming names, she makes a very good case for just that.
"It's been amazing, what is happening in the headlines. For instance, Charlie Sheen — a celebrity face and name — is absolutely a toxic type. He's in the category of the gloom-and-doom self-destructive victim. He's had it all, had everything handed to him over and over, yet he has these self-destructive issues including being with the women he should not be with again and again, and being very hostile with them," says Glass, who'll be seen with Joy Behar and Dr. Phil this week tub-thumping on behalf of the tome.
Next, there's "Mel Gibson, the control-freak type, the ultimate bully, so full of rage and hate, and even a little bit of the sadist, we see going on..."
And, "John Mayer, the emotional refrigerator. We see him go through these major relationships and, as a body language expert, I see that his body language is the same over and over again. Jennifer Aniston, Jessica Simpson — he walks ahead of these women. You see no affection."
Glass, whose book not only includes clues to look for in order to avoid toxic types (women too), but guidelines for dealing with them when one must, on the job or socially, points to Jesse James as another archetype. "The silent but deadly erupting volcano. He's so quiet and sweet, but then there's all this cheating with several women, and the photo with him wearing a Nazi hat — this obnoxious passive-aggressive attitude about his alleged racism..."
She views Michael Lohan as the toxic type she deems "the sneaky, two-faced, meddling backstabber" and who could disagree? John Edwards she titles the Wishy Washy Spineless Wimp. We get that.
Kanye West, meanwhile, is "a narcissist. It's all about him. For anybody to go onstage and take an award out of another person's hands saying they don't deserve it — that's the ultimate act of narcissism. He's the Me, Myself and I type of toxic man."
The Jealous Competitor type is represented by Chris Brown, in her view. "When a man hits a woman, it's about envy and jealousy — competitiveness. This is where you find cases of abuse — this type and the controllers."
At the very worst end of the scale are emotionless psycho sociopaths capable of acting very charming.
"They're blamers; nothing is their fault. And they're liars." She places fraud perpetrator Bernie Madoff and murder suspect Joran Van Der Sloot in that category.
Last but not least, there's the "manipulative cheating liar, which is Tiger Woods," says Glass. "We saw him. He gave that mea culpa speech, but it was all for his golf game."
Glass' book, of course, has much more information and nuance. "Of the 15 books I've written, this is the one I'm most excited about," she says, "the one I believe can most positively change lives," Or at least be entertaining as all get-out.
THE BIG-SCREEN SCENE: Gregg Sulkin, the handsome 18-year-old actor who stars as the reincarnation of King Arthur in the Disney Channel's "Avalon High" original movie unveiled last week, will soon to be off to Washington state for a completely different kind of assignment. He'll be starring in the big-screen adaptation of Madeleine L'Engle's "Camilla."
"It's an indie film, far away from Disney," says Sulkin, who's also familiar to "Wizards of Waverly Place" fans as Selena Gomez's werewolf boyfriend. "It's always nice to do other stuff, and it's definitely more edgy than anything I've played. My character is a kid who has been kicked out of Catholic school, who has alcoholic parents and who gets involved with a girl who also has problems with her family. The two of us are helping each other, being each other's parents in a way. My family is poor; hers is ridiculously wealthy. Her parents don't want her with me. It's a love story of two people helping each other grow up. It's really sweet, not a job any of us are doing for the money. It's for the art," he adds.
The book of coming of age and first love is one of some 60 novels by the late revered "A Wrinkle in Time" author. It is set in post-WWII New York and will require the London-born Sulkin to continue using the American accent he perfected for his "Avalon High" quarterback character.
As for his leading lady? "I can't say who else is in the movie yet, but it's interesting," he promises.
WEIGHTY MATTERS: Marie Claire can gripe about "fatties" on TV all the magazine wants; it doesn't appear to be stopping creative types from using surplus poundage as a character aspect. In the wake of "Drop Dead Diva," "Huge" and "Mike & Molly," ABC Family is getting ready to bring us "State of Georgia," as in a pilot about a "big, curvy, confident gorgeous southern belle newly moved to New York," per casting notices. Georgia may be a large lady, but "she's not about to let anything get between her and her dream of finding success." Maybe they ought to send her over to the Marie Claire editorial offices for a little down-home chat.
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